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Khichadi Street: An Introduction

Hi, my name is Ole Pertang Pertang Biscuit Barrel John Smith (Ole for short), and. I am a bird! Most younger people, out of respect, I think,  call me by my full name and they seem to enjoy that, and I like that, but I like adults to call me Ole.

Did you know that I had  a ‘peg to my name’? It was Sir, and imagine combining it with my full name, it just looks silly. So I dropped it. In bird world you can drop anything. Pity humans cannot do that easily, and I have so many human friends who are struggling with this.

My father’s sister (Faiba) gave me my first name, and this is a tradition in our Indian bird families. It was John. However as I grew up different names came along and finally a title! In due course, I shall describe the origins of the others names, save to say that  Biscuit was given to me when  I was in Kericho, on the other side of the Rift Valley in Kenya, Barrel when in Kisumu, near Lake Victoria. And of course, one of the Pertangs from California  and the other Pertang from UK.

You might think that all birds have no feeling, or senses, and you may be right. However, my family has been blessed. We can talk, walk, fly, and combined understand a lot more than most people. Well, where do the expressions ‘bird’s eye view’, ‘helicopter vision’ and ‘cannot see the wood from the trees’ come from?

So a lot of what I am going to talk about is what a an interesting world it is. Humans are such curious people and they have changed so much of the world, some for the better and some for the worse. In my view the ones that stand out are those that want to understand everything, and so I have made friends with some very special ones, and read about even more interesting ones.

Oh, forgot to tell you my wife’s name is Ladki, a traditional Indian name, although when I flying over in England, I call her Joseph because she is so kind and considerate. I know it does not make sense, but that is a human trait I have learnt, that not all things can be understood.

If I was to go back to around 1890 my grandparents were in India in a town called Kanar, near Rajkot, Gujarat. Prior to that their forefathers came from the Lohar valley in  the now Pakistan, and folklore says that they were at one time Sikhs. And it goes that, when it came to war, they were not true to their tribe of being strong Sikhs, so they ran away to Gujarat, and became Gujus.

Now Guju birds are no different to other birds, the male dresses in bright colours and the female in more modest colours , and usually the husband and wife travel together.

For the 99 per cent We are all constructs of our environment. As babies we are guided into what is right and wrong, put through schools which then put you into areas of development, and with the influence of  family and peers we eventually end up into our own vocation.Somehow this constant programming leads to a society of individuals who are all aspiring or trying to do better in their fields. And all things are not equal , so that some with greater opportunities and luck tend to do better and better, until somebody beats them.What is the point, and what is this doing to a fairer Society, where what is valued is not the doing better but a more congenial society?. We get alpha males, high octane, who may do amazing things, but what has more value?  Is it not that progress should only be distributed for those in most need. In the seventies, it is estimated that the worlds wealth was controlled by about ten per cent of the world’s population. It’s now one per cent, and the monies from the recent banking crisis and quantitative easing has mostly ended in these hands…almost all the 340 Billion in the UK alone. At this rate is it ever going to get better for the 99 per cent? Darwinism has in effect become our enemy.Clearly this debate can also be personal, and if one is  trying to aspire and improve oneself, why  not enjoy the fruits? To me the solution seems to be increased taxation and recognition for those that do more for Society. In effect, change the ultimate prize.  Mazlov’s theory of hierarchy, after all is, is still a theory, and there is no reason why wealth cannot be replaced by recognition.The challenge is therefore to manage the inherent desires we all have, and the ‘constructs’ need to work to benefit as many as possible. And not use these desires for personal means via greed, and miserliness.History proves that wealth beyond a certain level is just academic, and does not bring happiness. And then for the haves, if they do not have more, they get frustrated and angry, and mired in that they can do more and more damage but to who? The 99 per cent! Possibly to those in the lowest rungs of living, broken backs, starvation etc. And children, elderly and disadvantaged.Is this the extent of our civilisation In the 21st Century? Or the makings of a broken society? For those in advanced economies, the demographic shift has created an increasingly elderly society with the needs of added care, but closed doors, to those ‘hungry cares’ from places far away. Policy makers keep designing systems that require systems for those left to to do more and more, possibly driven by an expecting society or politicians grappling for votes. The answers are thought leadership that has a holistic approach from cradle to grave and to what end. And babies to grow and taught to be part of of the overall good.

Redditch Sikh Gurudwara

Talk at Redditch Sikh Gurudwara 

Pyari  Sangat, Sat Siri Kal 

Wahe   Guruji   Ki    Khalsa, 
Wahe   Guruji   Ki    Fateh 

Meena and myself are humbled and privileged to have had the opportunity to be invited to be part of this Sikh Community.

I have to say that every since I was a boy I have had a proud association with the Sikh Community. I grew up in Kericho or Kricho, the same town where Sant Puran Singh came from, and my father used to often visit him. 

So the bonding is extremely personal. In Redditch it was through Cooks Chana’s father who represented a perfect soul.

The central teaching of this beautiful faith of the Oneness of God or Eik  Omkar is a uniting factor for all of us. 

Guru Nanak Dev Ji said that there is only one God and He is the enemy of no one.

He established langar or Communal Kitchen to remind all the need to share and have equality between all people. 

The Sikh belief of all traditions to be equally valid and capable of enlightening all is in effect of an inclusive faith, a belief that I share with that of Sanatan Dharma in Hindu thought.  

The Upanisad tells us: Know the soul that is your own. In other words realise the unique principle of the whole , or God, that is in all men. 

If all of us have that inner self or atman or soul then we are all children of one God. There is no exclusion, and hence I feel perfectly at home here and try to feel the same with every faith. 

Yesterday Myjinder and myself attended The Holocaust Memorial Day, in memory of the millions of people killed by the Nazis. There was a Holocaust survivor, Ivy Knill, who is now 91. She had been though a living hell, and spoke how she survived Autswich concentration camp where so many Jewish people were gassed including members of her own family.

She said that if there is one message she would say to all of us is to learn that ‘under the skin we are all the same’.

Kabir, a contemporary of Guru Nanak Dev Ji said, 

”In your veins , and in mine, there is only one blood, the same life that animated us all! 

Since one unique mother begat us all, where did we learn to divide ourselves? ”

This resonates with how Sikhs have not only practiced this  but have always spoken and defended the innocent and weak. 

For Redditch and Bromsgrove this Community, a lot to offer, and be an vital and integral pillar of Society at large.

My aspiration is that the Community has a Gurudwara and that all faiths all get together to support this including of course Hindus.

I want to thank Mohan Singh Ji for first telling me about this and of course Myjinder  and Surinder Braich and Cooks Ji and Neena Chana for their support, friendship and being such wonderful souls.  

And all of you for your kindness and making us feel part of you. 


Namaste and Dhanyavad

Debt as a Perspective

 ‘What is the one thing you can give away to become even more better off?’, a question  once asked  to Yuthistir, the eldest  of the Pandava brothers in the Indian epic Mahabharata.

In Hindu thought , the atman is different from the physical body, and is part of that divine force that keeps us all going and is permanent. We generally aspire to tend to our bodies, but do we nourish out internal self? The word thaka in Gujrati means tiredness. Reverse it and it becomes katha! Or nourishment of the aatman.

So how what about debt? We tend to think in terms of a money transaction, and this is exchanged for something to fulfil a desire. These ‘cash’ transactions have evolved over possibly since the first millennium. What happened prior to that? I suppose it was bartering, a form of exchange where, for example, chicken may be exchanged for something else, which was specific to the exchange. This way a relationship may develop, and that could lead to say a boy getting married to a girl from a family where the exchange transactions occurred. In effect an IOU relationship would be between the families on continual basis. 

Today this happens between friends, and with every body else it’s is purely monetary, and the debt that has to be honoured. This in effect is a narrow vision of a relationship based on money, and less on give and take relationships as in bygone days.

In Hindu thought debt has a much larger context. It is seen in terms of the 

1) Devas so that whatever we eat we offer it to the Devas in reverence and thankfulness for our being.

2) Ancesters, or parents without whom we would not be here. The finiteness of life would mean that we would procreate to extend this indebtedness

3) The aspects of life we take for granted, eg earth, air, fire…let’s call these ‘the givens’.

4) The wildlife world around us, from insects to birds, that create a balanced ecosystem

5) And humanity, what it has achieved for us, and what our close relationships.

So the extent of all this is wide and debt does not have a narrow monetary focus. Debt in this context may mean that we recognise all that has been given to us for this span within our life. And it is not seen as bad, but a gratitude. 

One other way of looking all this on a personal level would be to ask oneself ‘if you were about to die what would you do different’ ? How would you write your epitaph if you are indeed dead? You might see that it was not the accumulation of what you had that mattered, but what you gave away wilfully that  benefits society.

Going back to Yuthistir, his answer to what would make him better off by giving one thing away was desire. Mahatma Gandhi realised this when he said that there is enough in this world to feed everybody’s need, but not enough to feed one mans greed. 

Our happiness has to be constantly fed with fulfilling the next desire, and in material terms leads one to permanent transactional approach that we can never be satisfied. Krishna in the Bhagavad Gita says, that when this is not satisfied, one despairs, can get frustrated,angry, and cannot rationalise. This is a vicious cycle for everybody to meet their desires.

When Hindus get married, they do the feras or the symbolic ritual of walking around the fire. each to these are ascribed a meaning of life conduct towards the next life. They are dharma, kama, aartha, and Moksha. 

Dharma has many meanings and interpretations,and one great one that I like is the well-being of all. Think about this in terms of debt. In India, hundreds of farmers have committed suicide because they cannot pay their monetary debt. Would this happen if dharma was followed by all?

Kama, means desire, and this has to in the spirit of sustainability.

Aartha, or the accumulation of wealth. This is therefore encouraged ( remember Laxmi?) but only in the context of dharma.

Moksh, is the ultimate ambition of a true Hindu and it takes different meanings according to the the sect or sampradhaya that is followed. For example, in devotional Hinduism ( for example Mirabai, and the Hare Krishna movement, and there are from the Ramanuja traditions) moksha means to be in permanent reverence of God above all else. Others may see it as the merger of the aatman or soul to the supersoul ( god) mech like a drop of water into the sea. This is more common in traditions that follow shankaracharya.

So be be mindful everyday for where you come from, how you are supported by family, environment, and humanity. 

What is the point?

I do not know where I come from, or will go to, Is my time here  only once?

If so do I make the best of everything now?

Is it a legacy? Or it it living life?

Is it about now, today or tomorrow?

Is it about health wealth and happiness? If so, is it to make, create and innovate? What is the point?

Is it about effort, passion and so on?

What is the point, if one cannot stand still, reflect at the beauty and complexity of nature, of hills and valleys, of sunshine and rain, 

Is it harmony and balance? 

Of nature, day and night, external and internal

Of the soul, intellect, mind, speech and action

What is the point?

Is it right to assume that I think therefore I am

Can you remember the ‘I’ at the age 10? Or 5 years ago?

Did you look different? So are you what you think?

What is the point?

Is it about that urge, hankering, or desire that is permanent ? To satisfy? Does it?

What is the point?

Or about ego often enveloping the mind and intellect? Or tearing down that ego though forgiveness, connection, humility, love, and compassion 

What is the point ?

Or regrets about the past and anxieties about the future , or just living in the moment ?

What is the point?

Forgivenes

On a crisp October Sunday morning last year, Councillor Bill Hartnett, the Redditch Council leader, Meena and myself, drove across to the Moseley Buddhist Centre. Don’t worry we did not go out to change our faith or belief system, although I could easily have done with a dose of yoga!

This is merely the place where we start our annual multi-faith walk where we walk, and talk with people from different backgrounds and visit their place of worship, if any. 

So on this one we had a lady in Birmingham who joined us partway and left part way, and had exchanged contact with Meena. She organises an annual event at her home and gathers women from different backgrounds at her home for sharing their reflections. This year there were women from four three countries!  So she says.

Getting a word in edge ways must be difficult, so I imagine there must be special reflections, and there were a handful this year. One poignant one was of a South African white woman whose nineteen year daughter was killed by a black young man, just before the end of apartheid, during the era of Pik Botha.

The mother asked to meet this man to ask him why he killed her daughter. He said that when he did what he did he was only thinking of the cause, and nothing else. The mother then forgave him. And her instant feeling was freedom from the shackles of her thoughts about this mans action. She was unlikely to meet him again, but her thoughts were freed to focus on more positive aspects of life.

This is not, of course an isolated story, and killings were from both sides. Nelson Mandela, was not just known for his fight against oppression and the many years in jail. His greatest legacy was that he did not bring South Africa into the abyss of a war against  former minority rulers. Instead he bought in a peaceful transition. 

And one method  was through the truth and reconciliation mission. Hundreds of victims families and adversaries, black v white, white v black met, wept, and moved on. The reconciliation was personal and in the mind, rather than meeting the adversary again.

In our small ways we need to release from our own mind those same trappings so that we can occupy it with more positive issues. Persistent hate is a pressurised balloon of anger that needs to be dissipated and make space. The victims mother required a lot of courage, and most of us require just a tiny fraction of that to sort those negative balloons in our minds and be free. 

I attended Church three times in the last three months, once in Birmingham (St Martins..beautiful) on our faith walk, and twice near Studley Castle, a near Redditch. The Church is in set off a narrow country lane and is a few hundred years old. Some months ago it was for a wedding of a colleague, and a couple of months thereafter  it was for the funeral service and burial of his mother. Matthew 6:12 ,which asks ‘And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive them that trespass against us’  was another reminder of forgiveness at the best and worst of times. 

The idea of the multi-faith walk came when I went to a Charity Walk  in Leicester about three years ago organised by the Friends of the Oxford Centre of Hindu Studies. We walked to each of the seventeen Hindu temples in Leicester, saying a  prayer, with maybe a prasadam and walking on. A sort of a pilgrimage!  I did not need to just go to India. 

In Birmingham,we do not have so many temples, so somehow with a  group we organise and attend Sikh, Jewish, Christian, Muslim, Hindu and Buddhist temples, and ask them to talk for a few minutes about a specific topic…this year peace. To me it’s the walking with different people which is incredibly enriching, as the experience Meena had with this lady. The peace message was virtually the same, dressed in different ways.

As for the Cllr Bill Hartnett , after the walk he was so excited, and called this experience a myth buster.  He wants to organise one in Redditch as an annual event. As we have mostly Churches, I am relishing the thought of understanding the variety of Christian denominations and we intend to attend a Sikh service and Hindu discussion.

On that note, it seems to me that debate and discussion about all our beliefs is a healthy development of common values.

Nairobi To Kericho

Let me take you through the most amazing panoramic and changing landscape in Africa. We are heading from Nairobi to Kericho in Kenya. Nairobi is busy with lots of traffic, but it’s nice and sunny around 25 degrees. We are in a 4 by 4, heading for the Escarpment. The soil is red, and the areas around are lush. Throw any seed and it grows in this wonderful soil, and food is plentiful, despite the modest lifestyle for most Africans.

As we drive along you see magnolia trees, proudly displaying their white or sometimes pink flowers in large gardens. Hibiscus plants strut their long stamens amongst graceful petals. The external walls are ornamentally dressed with bougainvillea showing off their purple and pink flowers. 

The Africans, mostly of the Kikuyu tribe, are busy going about their business, and you see a lot of men walking briskly towards the city as you head out. Most of them are probably doing house work or working in offices doing menial tasks. Amongst them you see some with ties, on bicycles, and lots of Matatu’s  heavily laden with passengers.

Heading to the Escarpment you see signs for Limuru, Naivasha and Gilgil and memories start coming back. The sight is awe inspiring and can only be appreciated if you see it. The Rift Valley below stretches all the way from Ethiopia and has various National Parks housing it, most notably Tsavo in Kenya and Serengeti in Tanzania. This geographical trench is 6000 km long!

As we drive down though a windy road with lots of trucks etc, memories remind us that this road was built by Italian POWs, with the landmark Church on the way built in 1942. The sight of those wonderful acacia trees with flat and shady branches with vast spaces of open plains is mesmerising.

You see Mount Longonot in the distance, in the valley standing majestically.

And within an hour you are on the plains, initially seeing Lake Naivasha, with the crescent Island within it, where part of the movie, Out of Africa, was shot. And then come the remnant signs of the still existing British presence, Lord Delamere’s farm and businesses after Naivasha. 

Amongst all this relative African hustle and bustle, I am told there is an amazing golf club… was referred to as the  European Golf Club…a legacy of the comfortable classes during the British colonial era!

There are the hills around Nakuru where the Hyrax live, an animal the size of a dachshund, and I think they thrive on the termite hills. 

You see herds, farms, goats, children and truckers going about their business. Then you might see warthogs often mistaken for pigs. 

And then comes the Gilgil toll, reminding us of the Mau Mau freedom fighters and the presence of the army garrison. The first president of Kenya, Jomo Kenyatta, was a Kikuyu, and one of the Mau Mau leaders. 

Kenya got its Independence from the British on the 12th December, 1963, and it National Anthem in Kiswahili ( the National Language), is about a prayer of fairness, welcome and humanity.8

Road Services, as in the Western sense, do not exist, but there are many places to stop as you get into the plains. You might stop at the Roadside Jalaram Mandir, which continually feeds travellers for free. This was built by Gujarati’s and reminds me of a Sikh Temple that does the same on the road from Nairobi to Mombasa in Makindu.

You then head toward Nakuru, in the flat plains , a place where Richard Leakey discovered the oldest human remains, and was, for years regarded as  the place the first man existed..the Neanderthal Man! Since then, there have been more discoveries of earlier ‘man’ around Central and West Africa.  

So I am proud to say that where we come from,  the cradle of civilisation began. Actually that word ‘civilisation’ is often used wrongly  by the West, for the west in a superiority and condescending sense.

My grandfather , Bhurabhai Tulsi Sodha, came from India at the turn of the 20th century looking for better prospects. India, those days, was very poor and there were frequent famines if the monsoons failed.

The sight of Lake Nakuru is just incredible . You see the mirrored water in the distance , with tens of thousands of Flamingo birds, a memory that I have etched in my mind. It’s like a pink silvery lake.

African shops line the  main road as we go toward Nakuru. They sell or serve kahawa (coffee), Nyama ya choma ( butchers), kinyozi ( barbers) and a host of little stores all specialising in everything… surely learnt from the Indian traders that were here in years gone by. You see tin roofs, and occasional mud huts in the distance. 

And then we come past Lake Elemetaita, with hundreds of Jacaranda Trees…. Wonderful! You see many missionary schools, and the Church has done a lot for education and basic necessities for the local communities. 

Christianity is the predominant religion of most of the Kenyans. You see mission schools, and one that comes to mind is the Little Sisters of Saint Therese. 

Memories come back of my uncle Pratapfua and aunt Kanchanben Raja who lived in Nakuru, the capital of Rift Valley Province. They originally lived in Gilgil, followed by Camp ya Moto, Nakuru and finally settled in Kericho. Bless them, they are still there in Bolton, when they came to the UK in 1972.

As you pass though Nakuru you are going uphill toward the other side of the Rift Valley, with more greenery, flora and even occasional Chincona trees with their classical white peeling bark, used for extracting quinine or I stand corrected. The temperature is cooler , and soon we go past signs of Molo, and take a turn for Kericho, as the road carries onto Kitale.

The people of the Rift Valley and beyond are the Kalenjin, taller and slimmer than the Kikuyu, and the second President, Daniel Arap Moi, came from these parts. 

Molo,  a small trading town, is surrounded by green fertile land, and arable farms. You see miles and miles of corn, and occasional posho mills. The soil is turning from dusty to pink and is richer. The temperatures are much more bearable. The road is great, with trucks, buses, now all heading uphill toward Kedowa, my mothers maternal home (Liladher Narbheram Tejura clan), my birthplace, and where we lost our mother. 

Kedowa is still a half a dozen houses, off the main road by the railway station. We go and see the house, where I have memories of school holidays, at my grandmothers. Both my Mamie’s, my mothers sisters-in-law , showered upon us a lot of TLC. And so my Mami, in Leicester, is  a legend…..She tells me that she hid Jomo Kenyatta when the British were looking for him during the fights for Independence!

I am ambivalent about Kedowa, because of the sad loss on Kantaben, my beloved mother,  when I was around 9 years old, so quickly move on toward Kericho. We sees signs of Londiani, where memories come back of time spent with my uncle Baludas Chandarana and aunt Kasifai Chandarana  during some holidays.

The main tribe that lives  around here is the Kipsigis, tall, lanky, and soft. In my opinion, their language, Kipsigis , is also the most pleasant, soft language that I know. ‘I am fine’ in Kipsigis is ‘Me Sing’! And ‘what are you up to’ is Yamune with a long stretch!

Kavita, my daughter initially sees miles of a vista of green and calls it the Green Carpet of Kericho. And this is the home of the best tea in the world, Brooke Bond Tea.

Kericho is also known as the Kashmir of Kenya, a place of outstanding natural beauty. 

The sun is out, although most outsiders would say its unusual, it always rains in Kericho!  It’s temperature is around 20 degrees and the air feels like natural air conditioning.  The place is around 6000 feet above sea level, higher than Ben Nevis, the highest in the UK! 

This side of the Rift Valley has produced some of the greatest ling distance runners, notably, Kipchoge Keino, the first African to win a gold medal in his category in the Olympics in 1968. Another notable one was Ben Jipcho.

I think of Joginder Singh, the famous international rally driver also came from these parts.

Being near the Equator, the weather here is almost perfect all the year around, and am proud that I spent the first 19 years of my life in this wonderful place. Kericho’s population has grown from around 10000 in the early 1970,s to perhaps ten times as much. There are new housing developments, the town is buzzing, and I visited familiar places, like Puran Singh Square, named after one of the founders of this town, and one who is revered by many Sikhs around the world. The Gurudwara in his name has visitors from all over, doing service to local communities in the best tradition of the faith.

My grandfather, Bhurabhai Tulsi Sodha, was an early settler, and set up with his sons B Tulshi and Sons after moving from nearby Lumbhwa and Sondho.  Our shop where I worked every school holidays and weekends is still called Tulsi’s. The African owner tells me that his grandfather, before he died, said call your shop Tulsi as it has a lot of luck attached to it.

I visit my primary school, Highland Primary, and the headmaster allows me to do an assembly, and we tell the children to aim high and build aspirations. And they show eagerness and all ( nearly 200) want to shake hands, and in uniform.

We innocently ask the Head whether they do their homework, and about ten per cent do not, mostly because they are street children , possibly of single parents, and those with HIV, and they have not had any food! Don’t worry that has been now been partly resolved. I feel proud that I taught here as a voluntary teacher before coming to the UK, and remember the transistor radio the school gave me as a gift.

There are many memories of Kericho, but one that stands out most is the perfect social cohesion that existed between all communities and religions. The clans that I can remember were the Morzeria family,  G M Mistry who owned a hardware store, CC Rupa, HL Sodha, Chandarana, Mohan Singh Chadha ( I think the famous film director, Gurinder Chadha, of ‘Bend it Like Beckham’ fame, is connected here). I could go on…

I wish somebody can articulate or reinvent their shared values that created this heaven on earth.

For me the  fondest memory is the natural air conditioned air, and the surrounding landscape. And, of course,  the amazing work and contributions that the Sikh Community, under the observance and vision of Sant Puran Singh and Bhai Sahib ji, and followers from

Birmingham and all over the world. 

has done to the local African Community

All this which belongs to the last person who feels and sees it.

Mr. Popaat

Around 2005, I was working as a community pharmacist in Banbury, a small town in Oxfordshire. 

It was a normal bustling day with lots of clinical checks on prescriptions, and advice for over the counter medicines.

One afternoon, an English care worker from a local peoples home came in and asked for a prescription for Mr Popat, which she pronounced as Popaat.    I spontaneously and politely corrected the care worker that the name should be correctly pronounced as Mr Pop-ut. Fortunately, she was understanding, and pleased that she had finally found somebody who could maybe communicate and find out more about this quiet elderly resident.

She said that Mr Popat , around 75 years,  did not understand English, and none of the staff knew his language. He was reclusive and mostly stayed in bed, and had written some words on his wall. He was referred to them by the local Council  as he could not manage on his own in the accommodation provided.  He was often seen walking as a ‘down and out’  in scruffy clothes  and given food by the local Pakistani community. His mobility  had got worse due to his diabetes, with ulcers etc, and eventually was provided a room in the Care Home. 

She asked whether I would visit Mr Popat, as there was very little information about him and whether he had any relatives. I explained that I was from the same Indian subgroup in Gujarat called Lohanas, and maybe able to help.  That evening after closing the pharmacy , I went across to visit Mr Popat. 

In his tiny room was a small desk, sink, and Mr Popat was curled up in the bed. My first words with him were Jay Shree Krishna…and he responded immediately with the same words.  The next words were ‘Habari Yako’, and he responded with ‘Muzuri Sana’. 

The care workers were delighted that he could understand and respond. With those four words, I knew he was an Indian, Gujarati, Lohana, and Hindu originating from East Africa, as he understood Kiswahili.  He eyes had brightened and he was delighted that he could reach out. The care workers were all excited and all this quickly went around the home.

The workers and even the local council wanted me to delve more, and I started visiting him more, despite being around 35 miles from where I lived. Very little was known about Mr Popat. He was clearly traumatised and perhaps slow, and gently in our conversations I pieced together that he has brought as a child to Uganda, (around 1940) from India and lived with a Popat family in Jinja. All his life he had worked in the family shop, and had never been married but remembered that he had a sister in India. 

In 1972, the president of Uganda, Idi Amin, expelled Asians  to leave the Uganda without any possessions, within three months, or they would be forcibly removed or killed. A few did get killed including a cousin of mine.  Many thousands of Ugandan Asians decided to exercise their  British nationality, on account of having been in Uganda since the colonial days.

On arrival at Heathrow, Mr Popat, according to him, lost his family/employer.  The UK government provided families with accommodation in various camps and eventually found them housing. Mr Popat , ended up somewhere in Oxford, and was subsequently Banbury. 

So for the next few years I would visit him from time to time, and one Christmas took my children to visit him with some Indian food and sweetmeats (rationed of course as he was diabetic). I kept an eye on his medication and saw various carers looking after him. And I would often get called to translate what he was saying, and he became much more cheerful. On one occasion he said he had not been to an Indian Temple since he had arrived to the UK more than 35 years ago. Neither Oxford or Banbury had a Hindu Temple, so I arranged for him to visit the Hindu Community Centre in Birmingham. He was by then in a wheel chair but was determined to visit the temple.

On another occasion he said he would like to meet or get in contact with his sister in Gujarat,  who he had not seen since childhood days. This was difficult call as he could not remember his town, although he said somewhere around Porbander, in Gujarat, India. I knew it would be impossible to find out, as this was many years ago, and would require visiting India and places to find out further information about his family. However, I knew there were Popat families in the UK, mostly around London and Leicester . I made many calls and nobody could remember him. I suppose this was about an event 35 years ago, and most of the fist generation would have passed away by then.

Around 2009, I was told that Mr Popat was ill and had to be admitted to hospital. I visited him and was told he would be out in a few days. Sadly, I got a call one early morning at about 4 am that he would not survive, so I drove the 35 miles to the then Horton Hospital in Banbury. Mr Popat had passed away peacefully. The nurses were very supportive. I set by the bed, said some prayers and after a while started to take my leave, at which stage the nurse in charge asked me what arrangements was I going to make, and that I should take his suitcase.

It was then that it first dawned on me that I was assumed to be his next of kin, and that I would be responsible for his funeral, I phoned some Lohana elders, Babubhai Nathwani and Prafulbhai Nathwani, in Birmingham about the matter, not knowing what to do. They said that according to tradition, I would have to find a priest, 5 witnesses one of whom would have to a male with the Sir name Popat!  I then called on some Lohana friends ( Dilip Nathwani, Avinash Rughani, Pradip Chandarana and Kirit Rughani) , they agreed, and even found someone from Coventry with the Popat Surname.

We arranged a crematorium, did the full Hindu ceremony for Mr Popat, with a priest, and a few weeks later, with the same elders, spread his ashes in a flowing river, where my own fathers had been spread. I then distributed his meagre council savings to local causes in Banbury.

Redditch Pledge

In January 2001, I had travelled with my young family to US for a conference and a small vacation.  Our first destination was Boston, where we visited Harvard University and walked the Boston Mile to the Boston harbour. It was here, in 1773, that demonstrators, boarded the East India Company ship and threw off the chests of tea from China , as the Company was exempt from local taxes giving it an unfair advantage. The British government considered this as treason and responded harshly with the event escalating into the American Revolution. And within a few years, in 1788, the US Constitution was written in 1778, starting with the famous three words “We the people”.

We then went took the American Airlines flight to New York, and walked around Manhattan, saw Central Park, Times Square, the United Nations Buildings and even caught a glimpse of Bill Clinton passing in a motorcade! We went up the Empire State Building , and one of the Twin Towers, where on one of the top floors saw a movie, and the children had a “coin’’ imprinted. I particularly remember  a young person working in the cinema serving us ice-cream.  I have often wondered whatever happened to her, was she working when the terrorist planes crashed into the Twin Towers that same year on 9/11?

We all often wonder how we can all live harmoniously, despite having laws (local and international) education, family, friends and peer influences. And in the worst case disharmony can lead to wars where there is always suffering on all sides.

They usually start with some negative thoughts, that lead to arguments, escalating to bigger differences, involving more people and are usually about race, assets, and or values and ethics that vary. And despite the huge progress mankind has made in the world, with developments in democracies, technologies, and economies, wars keep happening!

The bombing of the Twin Towers escalated into world wide events, of the fight against terrorism, and some countries almost being decimated notably Afghanistan. And the Islamic radicalism impacted not only on communities around the world with terror acts in countries around the world, but also caused a lot negative feeing on ordinary Muslim families.

My own town of Redditch, of 70000 people, we had and have had a lot of harmony throughout my 40 years in the town. Many different types of immigrants have moved here, from the Polish, Caribbean’s, Pakistanis, Indians, Syrians and Ukrainians. True and just leadership has been shown by the local Council and senior stakeholders in town. However, external issues such as some terrorist act used to worry us that negative issues would spread into our town. A couple of particular events were a march by the  racist English Defence League, and the damaging of a local mosque that was being built in town.

Most Redditch people were aghast by these events, and somehow, with a local Council leader, faith leaders from the Christian, Muslim, Hindu, Sikh and Jewish Community got together to see whether we can proactively work on preventing any flares ups. I represented the Hindu Community, having been a previous Chair. In the early days, these meetings at night would be nebulous, flaky and lacked clarity, but thanks to the lead Councillor, Bill Barnett, he managed to get us on track and eventually we started working on what mattered to all the people of Redditch.

And from there we went on to debate and write the Redditch Pledge.

I was tasked to work on the wording , and this was huge challenge, as we wanted to avoid the pledge to not become just an inter-faith pledge. I had spent many hours on what mattered to us, and started with fundamentals on what mattered to us as a society, and I even remember a ‘word’ progress one week, and dropping the following week, with many iterations, and contributions, including from my Malaysian friend, Boon, and my son, Anand, a philosophy student. My Sikh friend in one passionate debate came up emphatically saying the words “Everyone Matters”, and the final version was agreed.

We, as people of Redditch 

pledge ourselves as one united community,

respecting all races, faiths and beliefs,

to build on our common values 

to achieve happiness and progress 

for all. Everyone matters.

We Launched the pledge with a walk from St Stephens Church Redditch to the Redditch Mosque, with over 200 stakeholders from schools, police, and faiths, and for me it was one of the proudest moments of my life.

I say that because I have often felt that differences are often perceived and we celebrate diversity. But underneath all that are some common values and that was what I had started with in trying to build consensus on the  Redditch Pledge.

The below values have been taken from the Inter Faith Network, comments made at our meetings, iterations and e-mails. This list is not exhaustive

Communication and Trust

Listening, and Openness

Courtesy and mutual respect

Respecting dissent and other people’s right to express this

Accountability and Responsibility

Diversity

Inclusiveness

Mutual Respect and fellowship 

Democracy (based on equality and justice)

Harmony, safety, dispel fear, safety, compassion

Confidence, enterprise, vibrancy and skills….. Redditch Economic themes

HOW THE VALUES ARE INCORPORATED

REDDITCH PLEDGE                                                     VALUES                     

We, as people of Redditch             …fellowship

pledge ourselves as one united community …unity ,community

with respect to all races and faiths or none          …tolerance,mutual respect

to build on our common values …democracy, equality, justice

…communication and listening

…debate, openness,  

…respecting dissent

  …accountability

to achieve …objective

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       happiness, and progress …love, care, harmony, safety, compassion,

…good health, education, environment  

…confidence, enterprise, vibrancy, skills                                                                                                                                                

for all, …common good, responsibility,

…citizenship

…diversity and inclusion

…age, gender, 

Everyone matters…                                                … individually and collectively